GM5: I don't have any great words of wisdom, particularly beyond the great advice of Grinity and others, but just wanted to chime in with support. Vent all you want here.

It's unbelievable how they treated her at the school clinic. That's the kind of thing that makes a kid, whether sensitive or not, want to avoid a place that's supposed to help them.

In general, your situation sounds like a bad one. It seems like your particular school can't meet your GD's needs and isn't really planning on trying. Is there some other schooling situation you can find?