Originally Posted by master of none
This mom said she gets pressure from other Asian parents too. They tell her if she doesn't start violin lessons young, doesn't get them into the right sport, math tutoring, etc, her kids will not do well. She has tried to raise her kids to follow interests and passions and to be relaxed and she feels like she is improving with each child, but has a great deal of guilt over how stressed her older dd is, and a world that tells her that her children must achieve.

What are they trying to "achieve" though?

It's always been a complete abstraction to me because there's no benchmark as to what is an acceptable level of achievement.

Kind of like the empty word "success". I can't even tell you what that means.

Last edited by JonLaw; 07/23/13 08:23 AM.