It doesn't sound like that's accurate to me. Your son's perfectionism, and your parenting style, seem to have resulted in a situation where your son feels the need to be pushed by you.
(I'm struggling to eschew references to possible culture, use of idioms, etc. here to keep us sufficiently on the same wavelength to communicate in English. How'd I do?)
I'm getting a little tired of quoting earlier posts, so I'll try, one more time, to say what seems to keep getting ignored:
According to all the adults who know him well, ds (or 'OVC', as he referred to himself after hearing about this thread yesterday: 'oppressed victim child') has
way fewer
much less intense
episodes of panic at the thought of failure than he used to years ago.
According to 'OVC' himself and those same adults, he needs
much less pushing, from me or anybody else,
than he used to years ago.
You did fine, but 'possible culture'? Again, way too worldly for me, I guess!
