Originally Posted by passthepotatoes
Originally Posted by hip
Near the end of the process, I was getting fed up and about to give up, when he looked up, in tears, and said, 'Don't stop -- I like it when you make me do things.' I was floored.


Yes, we are coming to this from very, very different places. In that situation I would feel I had really failed my kid. To hear a kid say he perceives himself as so incapable that people have to threaten him to make him learn is a very sad thing to me.

Yes, I don't think that sounds like a system that's working. To some extent I think strong encouragement might help a kid realize that his boundaries are not as fixed as he thought, resulting in greater self-confidence. But this little vignette certainly doesn't sound like evidence of a child who will turn out to have the "eye of the tiger". It sounds like an unhappy kid who's trying to appease his mom while she is pushing him, and/or actually does need her as a crutch-- either is not good in my opinion.

Striving to increase my rate of flow, and fight forum gloopiness. sick