On the subject of being the mean mommy, my boy's outgrowing pullups and overflowing them at night. I insisted on "no drinking anything after 6". Being I'm a weak woman I relented and now I have to go wash laundry at quarter to midnight. I believe in "involved parenting" pushing, guiding, directing sometimes and with the right conditions and motivation. Like "you will dress yourself because i have to get dressed, get your sister ready, and load the car," and for other such selfish reasons. Um, I kind of think he should have the locus of control of his body always, theoretically. I shop for groceries. He can raid the fridge at any time, except when I'm cooking. (That makes me mad.) So is there anything to do for someone who's not night-trained and overflows , mh hmm. Besides denying drinks at night?

Youth lives by personality, age lives by calculation. -- Aristotle on a calendar