Fwiw what I liked about Dandy's scheduled breaks is that they were regularly scheduled. They're not in response to. They can look forward to knowing they're going to get a frequent break. But it's not like the star chart and skittles that they can try to work hard and take a mile. You're trying to carve out a comfortable rut, right. Also fwiw you're not wrong at all to feel hurt by certain posts, but I believe their intention was good and they were just sharing what they discovered work well in their own lives and worked well for their family. I like how you politely said you felt that it was mean spirited. You handled your response quite well. Also Fwiw I applaud your bravery in reaching out for advice and companionship in this vulnerable state.

Youth lives by personality, age lives by calculation. -- Aristotle on a calendar