Here's another REALLY AWESOME link that explains how perfectionism
can look like a motivational problem, or sort of like an executive function one:
When A High Distinction isn't enough: a review of perfectionism and self-handicappingThis may be my favorite one of all, in fact. It's the one that made the neon all come on for me personally, anyway.
My profound thanks again to everyone here; you've been so kind and helpful.
It goes without saying that there's nobody that I can talk to outside of our family about this IRL without sounding like I'm insane. I know it
looks like the pressures of high school are "finally getting to her" because she's eleven years old, and that we should just "let her be a kid/quit hothousing" and this would fix itself, but that is just not our reality. I'm so grateful to have found a group of people that don't automatically assume that.
