I agree a lot with the other comments, look at it from the child's side. My comments were related more to circumstances where I was not in control and able to do what I would have done.
Punishment, threats, yelling and deal making is not what I feel is necessarily appropriate. The child may be having real problems with little control over herself. Talk calmly about any topics you can get a response out of, not necessarily about the problems or school. Take walks, get outdoors, do some new things. It sounds like your daughter may not deal well with too much time indoors given the seasonal aspect. Don't ask her to do anything on her own, ask her to do things with you.
Take it seriously as was said and worry about how she feels. What worries me in this case is the lying. This can be anything from a temporary phase to a serious issue. I really don't know if any of these ideas of right in this case.
Last edited by JamieH; 03/09/11 02:23 AM.
