State university is unlikely to be a good option for us for reasons I can't get into (too identifying).

If we stay at our current income level (which...has its disadvantages--and actually, DH is probably about to come up for promotion), we're probably better off gambling for big aid than going abroad. We're not in the sour spot previously discussed. We would get quite a lot of aid, most likely, although we'll have to fork over a fair bit, too. I remind myself that we once paid for full-time daycare, which isn't cheap, either, and that our kids are just about exactly 4 years apart (nicely done, self). We have some pretty nice legacy options, though I don't know how much that counts past parents (anyone?)