It seems there are different worlds that semi-coexist. In one world the word elite has meaning and trophies and social competition are all relevant. In the other world it is more about ideology and life and friend choices are made around factors like enjoyment, happiness, and the greater good.

What I don't understand is if one group believes in rubbing elbows, why is it the other goup that wears jackets with patches on the elbows?