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Correlation is not causation. For example, it's no surprise that children who were doing well experienced less criticism/shaming than those who weren't - it doesn't prove that criticising/shaming your kids makes them do less well! (Not that I'm advocating it.)

I can still vividly remember my time as a 7 year old schoolboy in England (1970s). The teacher, in the middle of talking about a totally different subject like geography, for instance, would suddenly point to a random kid and yell 'what's seven times eight?' or some other random product. Woe betide the poor kid that couldn't just rattle it off or, even worse, starting counting on his fingers - the teacher would start smacking those fingers with a stick! I was very glad that I had a good memory and that things just naturally seemed to make sense and stick at those moments - let me tell you.

It (public shaming/hitting with a stick) did not seem to help at all either - what a surprise!

Last edited by madeinuk; 05/09/13 09:11 AM.
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