Aha, rampant emotionalism.....I must not be as F as I thought...:)
I'm following you Dave, I think it's the different lenses through which we are viewing this, I am putting a different value on "hurting feelings"
For example, if a doctor told me I had cancer, it wouldn't hurt my feelings, but I'd be mad as h@#$$!
I don't think an honest evaluation would hurt my feelings, but I think there is where the importance lies. I think I'm pretty good at sensing when someone is sincere vs. just plain nasty.
Or maybe I'm insensitive and just don't have hurt feelings easily. (shrugging shoulders).
Also, I don't like to argue, but I like to investigate ideas and love to debate.