Thanks. Dh, like you, was not dx with ADHD as a child but we've had a counselor he saw as an adult tell us that he likely has it and he has classic symptoms. He is a very unhappy person who came out of school feeling like he was stupid. He still feels that way to this day.
If you know, what type of tests did the psych run for your ds other than behavior scales? Dd doesn't appear to have an attention issue to people who don't know her. She is quite an actress and is involved with theatre. She plays whatever role she thinks will put her in the best light. She'd sit there and appear to read or focus on something for an hour if that's what she thought would look "normal" to the psych. Granted, her mind wouldn't be focused but one can't tell that from looking at her.
I believe that she is quite bright and she's older so she can pull off the "typical" act well enough to fool most adults. She compensates like mad and saves the melt downs and obvious lack of focus for home where she asks for help and then cuts us off, cries, and interrupts herself and everyone else non-stop.
She did see a child psych for a few visits about 1.5 yrs ago and the only odd thing she noticed was that she had dd playing some game where dd was taking an unusual and somewhat ineffective approach. She showed dd how to do it and dd just kept trying her ineffective way over and over refusing to give up until she could make it work. That, however, may just be a personality (stubornness) issue more than anything.
