Yes, sometimes I have that problem, but how i respond depends on the situation. If people are being rude, I vent to hubby or a gifted friend. If they are rude to DS, I will stand up for my son, as diplomatically as possible. But I am *slowly* starting to realize (thanks in part to this board and part to some recent experiences) people figure it out, whether I say something or not, and even if they don't say much until later.