Twinkle,

Do you mind me asking where you live? Is it a rural area? Do you not have any other schools in your area such as Montessori or is it that you don't think a Montessori school would be a good fit for your daughter? And the only reason I picked Montessori is because they seem to be the other choice in most towns.

I know I'm asking a lot of questions but I have to believe you have some other choices. Perhaps you could find someone to come to your house such as a college student (if you live near a college) or even an older grandmother type because I really sense that more than anything you need some time to yourself. I understand the frustration of DH working all the time. I have one of those too.

And BTW ... I'm shocked by the description of the other children. By 4 their speech should be clear.