HappilyMom, there just comes a point when you look at your child, you look at the school, you look at the stack of information that you're using to advocate... you look at the rate of progress on that advocacy front, and consider the energy involved...
and you wonder;
Is it better to spend this energy directly WITH and ON my child? Or continue to spend it on his/her BEHALF?
Because the time/energy investment is somewhat similar. Different parents/circumstances give different results, but for me the turning point was in realizing that I'd spend LESS time if I DIY'ed, and it would be much closer to meeting my child's needs. It also would mean that my DH and I wouldn't spend most of every day wondering if we'd see her alive again.
It may be worth pursuing an IEP even if you homeschool-- I recommend that, in fact, as it establishes the diagnoses for the purposes of future accommodations which may be needed in testing, or college.
