I agree. There's a difference between "not in the mood, but necessary," and "Grossly unnecessary and no fun."

Taking out the trash is no fun, but it is necessary. That's not hothousing.

Doing math homework may feel like taking out the trash for some child, but if the math is developmentally appropriate and assigned for school--any school, including HS--then it's not hothousing either.

Having a 3yo memorize the times tables is not necessary. So if it isn't fun for the child, then I'd define it as hothousing.

If the child does it alone, then it's DEFINITELY not hothousing. I can imagine the mess, kcab! crazy


Kriston