Most 4 year olds don't demand violin lessons. Mine did. People may assume I "hot house" because they don't think 4 year olds seriously demand violin lessons.
I don't blame them for thinking that, but it's not really my problem.
It is a problem when the teacher at school thinks I am doing this hot house thing to my children.
But, after some time, they realize I'm not, because they see when the kids don't know something and then how quickly they learn it for themselves, eventually.

Take heart Mia and all others accused of hot housing. The people that are important in your child's life will "get it" eventually.
This is a good thread!

Incog