Originally Posted by EandCmom
One thing I struggle with is knowing when to push. If I am certain my child is capable of doing more but he isn't interested in doing more, then do I push?? I don't because I don't want the conflict from pushing when there is no interest. But, sometimes you do have to push because they do have to do things they don't always like doing. This is the part that I think is difficult. Knowing when to push and when to back off.

Sometimes we "push" to get over a hump--"this is too hard--I can't do it." when I *know* he can do it. But then after a limited period time, he is over the hump and then I stop pushing. Hothousing to me is when you never let up and never stop to reevaluate what you are doing and why.