I kind of feel like the polar opposite of attentive right now, like I've missed some very important clues. But he held up pretty well (very well!) until this year. I have told a couple of close friends about the neuropsych appt and that she is evaluating for autism and nobody can even fathom that could be possible.

And I've asked twice for SPED to look at him, no dice. When I first asked family doc for neurologist referral, he told me the only thing wrong with my son is that he is too intelligent to fit in easily.

It is really upsetting that a child has to flounder and be miserable before anyone will help. Is this more of the 2E problem?

I'm not sure why the idea he might have autism is so much more painful than "just" ADHD. But it is.