Howler, the toll of finding appropriate educational settings for a smart child is entirely different to the toll an incredibly energetic child takes on a parent. I don't have to spend 14 hours a day fielding questions, and apparently neither do you. It is unfair of us to claim that experience, just like its unfair of people who just need a small adjustment for their kid to be acccomodated to claim it's anything like what some of us have to do for our kids (and, again, you and I get it relatively easy because our kids aren't 2E).