Based on these two comments, I have a question:

Originally Posted by HowlerKarma
BUT-- any processing step that occurs in someone else's kitchen, or around an allergen-- renders safe food unsafe.

Originally Posted by HowlerKarma
So yeah-- no offense to people in my life who have sometimes gone to extreme measures to try to feed my DD (new pans, buying new flour, etc.), but I know just how easy it is to make a mistake in a single microsecond of inattentiveness.

Would having those people over to your house to prepare a dish for your DD in your kitchen, from your known-safe ingredients, and with your equipment satisfy their need to give her a food treat?

What is to give light must endure burning.