But this leads me to another really important point about people like my DD. They can't win with others, and it isolates them horribly.
They have two choices--
a. accept exclusion gracefully, placidly, and serenely-- with perfect poise and manners, in which case others will use it against you as a reason TO exclude you (OH, it's okay to hold the meeting at the {allergen-laced} restaurant {that DD can't even go into}-- she said she doesn't mind!
or--
b. Show that it gets your goat-- be sulky, or sad when people are selfish or mean or petty about it. OH, well, then in that case, it's an example of
emotional immaturity.
