Most school administrators and teachers default to one of two positions when you ask for accommodations related to a life-threatening food allergy:

a) intimidation via name-and-shame-- they make SURE that everyone else knows who you are, and wash their hands of responsibility-- forcing you to deal with other parents and defend yourself with people who may know absolutely NOTHING about you-- as though they are entitled to, which is just bizarre, or

b) accommodations that PUNISH the child. "Here, sit in the corner," or "go to the hall so we can do this art project," or "you can't go on this field trip," or "go to the principal's office."


For people who supposedly love children, these kinds of responses are mind-boggling.

Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.