I don't believe I hothouse ds6, but I do encourage. He is not working to his ability at school and is trying to fit in. I do "make" him read at his level and offer enrichment as he requests in math and science. Yet, isn't that what parents do? Support learning and help when kids have questions? No matter where my child was, I would want him challenged.

For ds3 (not sure of his ability/ iq), he is very different from his brother. Everything is child driven or he won't engage (with me). We play word and number games. He loves gear toys and building toys. I read to him as much as I can. However, no flash cards or baby can read type activities.