Originally Posted by ElizabethN
Originally Posted by HowlerKarma
Unfortunately, a lot of parenting wisdom is about coercive or manipulative operant conditioning or extrinsic rewarding, and for some kids, it's really bad news. I do think that "GT" status may well be enriched in that group and vice versa. But there are plenty of kids that don't fall in both groups, or are in one but not the other.
This is why I'm liking the Collaborative Problem Solving model so far. But it remains to be seen whether it will "work".

This is so true, and why the book Hold on to Your Kids made such a difference. Focusing on the relationship rather than behavior was huge. More effective and more peaceful. (I am not opposed to manipulation and extrinsic rewards, but it just doesn't work for some kids.)