Katelyn's Mom, I'm pretty near certain that Kriston was not accusing you of hothousing. I think she was just talking about it in a hypothetical sense.

I think the topic came up because you mentioned things like the prevalence of after-school tutoring and preschools prepping kids to do powerpoint. Some people think of these kinds of things as hothousing.

As for your DH's question, I think the culture around us definitely affects our perceptions of our kids' abilities.