DS doesn't want to use his locker, and they are allowed to carry their things with them. He lost a coat last year, but we did (eventually) find it. Other than that he's done okay without the locker, but it seems to me like it would be good to know how to use it. He lugs around everything and he's not a big kid.

He did not bring home his book yesterday. Now I will need to take the kids to school early, park and walk in, get the book myself.

The thing that bothers me most is this: DS is on academic probation and will be asked to immediately leave the program if any grade falls below a C, even at quarter. If that happens, I don't have any idea what I'd do with him. He's currently in two MS classes and four HS classes--but he would have to go to a middle school if he's removed. What classes would he even take at that point?

He has As and Bs in all of his classes right now. He can do the academic work at this level. The Bs are because of missing assignments that he forgot. In one class, the B is because they had a "supply check" and he was missing a folder. He's actually only failed to complete one single assignment--and that was in class, not homework. IOW, he's doing a fantastic job in school right now.

The 504 says teacher is supposed to check at the end of class to make sure he has materials. I sent email reminding teacher. DS still doesn't have the book.

The 504 also says teacher is supposed to initial planner.

A couple of weeks ago, we had a similar situation in this class, in which DS hadn't written anything useful in his planner and we couldn't figure out what he was supposed to be doing.

As I'd been instructed to do if there was a 504 issue, I emailed the teacher and cc'd program coordinator saying DS needs to write actual assignments in the planner. This resulted in a backlash.

I think it's only fair that if the teacher makes a mistake, they then extend some grace in DS' direction. IOW, if they misunderstand, or forget to do something in 504--then the countdown on DS' assignment should be extended to reflect the mistake. This is about DS succeeding and not being kicked out of his program, not my being a helicopter parent and wanting him to have straight As. However, the last time this happened (teacher didn't follow 504, IMO), DS' assignment was accepted but counted as late.

It's like the teacher is going to be very rigid on his side of things, but expects me to be flexible about whether or not the 504 is followed.

I have absolutely no desire to be a helicopter. I just want the adults to do what they are supposed to do.

Now I feel like I need to do something about the 504 compliance, even though I just met last week with the teacher in question. I don't think the teacher understands--he's a first year teacher. I also feel like the coordinator (who isn't technically in charge of 504, but acts as a mentor/liaison) is irritated by me.

This was a gigantic problem last year, and is the reason DS is on probation in the first place. He had one class that fell to a D after the last day of school, when the teacher finally graded several assignments and his grade was updated--all due to missing work about which I was not informed.

The high school teachers, who have three times as many students as the middle school ones, are right on top of everything--including communication, gradebook, planner.

Sorry for the length. I'm anxious about this, obviously. I think I need to begin stressing that DS has a disability. You would think people would take ASD pretty seriously, even if they are dismissive of the ADHD piece. I'm having trouble understanding the situation.

Last edited by eco21268; 09/15/15 03:39 AM.