Alternatively, DW and I wanted to know ASAP, so we could see her as an individual. The first thing we did when we got home from that doctor's visit is give DD her proper name. Naming her made her feel so much more real.
Same goal, two different approaches.
We felt the same way with our second two children. Our older two were significantly older than the younger two, and by finding out gender and naming early on, it felt like they were already a part of our family. In fact, at times, the older ones talked about the younger ones in a way that confused people into thinking the younger ones had already been born! Both dds were in the room as their younger brothers were born, and oldest dd (9 at the time, but already planning a career in biology:)) was the first to touch both brothers, as they were emerging (she clearly found it more fascinating to watch then dh or I!). I understand both approaches, but for the siblings, finding out gender was a great way to bond.
