To extend that further, I have no preference.
Ditto. To answer your original post, giftedness didn't affect our family planning at all, because DW had a medical consideration which trumped all others. We're quite fortunate to have the one, and DW had to pay a significant physical cost.
DD occasionally asks me if I wish she'd been a boy, because she's picking up from subtle social cues that dads are supposed to prefer sons. Luckily, I can set her fears to rest with complete honesty.
We didn't find out DS' gender until he was born because we wanted to bond with our baby as a human, not as a gendered individual.
Alternatively, DW and I wanted to know ASAP, so we could see her as an individual. The first thing we did when we got home from that doctor's visit is give DD her proper name. Naming her made her feel so much more real.
Same goal, two different approaches.
