Well, truth be told, I guess as a parent I view it that way, too. I'm not 'proud' of DD's status as a PG person.

It just is, in our estimation. Like being born with curly hair or blue eyes. Genetics, of course, played a large role, and I suppose one could argue that we were open to it at a relatively early age, but beyond that, there's simply no way that a parent could "cause" any of what DD has become.

But to lash out at someone with the intention of diminishing what they ARE is bizarre, to say the least. That's like trying to convince someone that their child's hair isn't REALLY all that blonde. ??? And to do that to a young teen who is already self-conscious about her appearance-- is, well, toxic.


Schrödinger's cat walks into a bar. And doesn't.