Parents take far too much credit for their child's achievements (and also failures). I thought I was the best potty-training parent on the planet until I tried with my daughter...it became clear to me that my ds trained himself.

A little tangential, but on the complaining side of giftedness, I see it this way: I was infertile for many years and bristled at pregnant women's morning sickness tales or got downright angry at parents' flippant remarks about their kids. They had every right to complain (parenting is exhausting)...but I didn't want them to complain to me.

I imagine it could be seen the same way between a gifted child vs one with learning difficulties. Even if we're dealing with 2e...some parents may still not be able to empathize with our hardships.