I see the tendency to micromanage in both parents of schooled and homeschooled children. As an example, a mother who was overinvested in her child's progress at school is now enmeshed with his home education experience. The new book, A Parent's Guide to Gifted Children has a great chapter on overidentification with the gifted child, enmeshment, etc. I think people who tend to be very controlling are going to present that way in just about any situation.
I don't mean to imply that anyone HERE is this way, the example I have given is an extreme one. It is just helpful for making my point.
This was a great question, and a very valid concern. My own kids are 2e and they have plenty of ways in which they must struggle.
take care-
