What Val said.

Val is one of the pithiest posters here - if she posts something I always read it.

Over the years I have learned a great deal from posters like her.

You cannot make casualty out of yourself because you will be unable to function let alone be a parent.

At 10 there is plenty of time for him to come to his senses and recover any lost ground a strong dose of reality - cold and harsh it may be, sounds like just the ticket.

Become what you are