Really? If somebody observed your daughter's precocious development and commented that they aren't going to push or encourage their kids to race you wouldn't in any way find that to be a negative comment? To me words like "pushing" and "racing" are the sort of negative assumptions that parents of gifted kids hear a lot and they don't reflect a good understanding of the development of gifted children.

So, I'll say it again, if it would feel like racing or pushing to radically accelerate that is probably a sign the child doesn't need it. For me having an 11 year old in college felt no more like racing than having a 3 year old reading or doing multiplication. It felt like going at a totally normal pace because for this child it is normal and nonrushed development.