Originally Posted by cammom
Saying "I want to make someone feel bad" at four, is nothing like a self aware person saying it at twelve.

Without knowing the context of the original discussion, I can imagine the underlying thought process being:

1. X threatened me
2. I tried to prevent X threatening me, to no avail.
3. X crossed one (or more) of my boundaries.
4. I needed justice restored/to protect myself.
5. Hurting X met my needs in 4.
6. Ergo, I wanted someone to get hurt.

The motive is not the harm of others, but self-protection.

Also, maybe I'm being uptight, but why are one year olds on a trampoline? That is surely not safe. They have no sense of their safety in space or the risk associated with bouncing near others.


What is to give light must endure burning.