My DS7 has a tendency to react, then think. In an effort to get this moving in the other direction, we instituted "ground hog day". When he makes one of his instant, not thought out choices, I stop him and ask him if he'd like to try a "do over". The second time he generally makes a much better choice and the situation never escalates. Depending on the situation, we will often discuss what went wrong the first time. It has taken some time but I have definitely seen improvement in his behavior. More and more he is thinking first, then reacting.

Shari
Mom to DS 10, DS 11, DS 13
Ability doesn't make us, Choices do!