My son pulled the same stuff at a young age-- I had to respect his grit. If you take away ALL of his things and privileges, he will almost certainly eventually break down. I'm just sayin'. If not, you've got a real trooper on your hands.

You need to be completely firm with him, and completely consistent. That requires both of you to be on the same page.

I would not spank him, for lots of reasons.

I have seen this described as an imbalance of power, and maybe that's one part of the problem. I picked up "Beyond Time-Out: From Chaos to Calm" one day at the library, and it had some good advice on dealing with it, although it's not perfect.

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