Thanks for all of the recommendations, especially the books!

Time outs in our house are a complete joke. If we sent him to his room, he usually just makes a disaster out of his room and time outs in a chair where we can see him are not useful.

I took him to the doc to see if he had autism or aspergers, neither of which she believes he does. She suspects ADD/ADHD, but my husband refuses to try the medication because "he's a 5 year old boy, and that's what 5 year old boys do and how they act."

DeeDee, I like the idea of the chart with the points system. Maybe the sticker chart at school doesn't entertain him because he either gets a sticker or not. There's nothing really engaging to him about it. I'll have to try that, I think he'd enjoy that and "get" it better.