What you wrote made complete sense Dazey! I love that we can elaborate on this board and bring in details and examples of our DC's situations. Sorry, I hope it didn't seem like I was condensing what you were saying... eek In looking back at my post, I can see how my last paragraph could have appeared that way... My post was about my experience as a child - writing about my memories helps me with thinking about the right thing to do for my kids. I appreciate that I can do that on this board grin.