Also a child that looks 8 or 9 may actually only be 6. My kids are very small (eg my 8 year old is 6 year old clothes and my almost 5 year old is barely in 3T) However it seems like many children run big! So, my 4 1/2 year old has friends who are just about as big as 7 year old! Regardless of how big my rather small four year old appears physically I am not letting him go to a public bathroom by himself. So far he is very "emotionally healthy" smile Mu eight year old does go by himself but that was just since he turned eight and requested it. I do not have multiples but I am still usually way too busy and distracted to be "appalled" by much other than people hitting and screaming at their children... having friends with children with all kinds of needs and special needs and "invisible" issues has made me way less judgmental.

Last edited by Irena; 01/25/14 11:08 AM.