Hmm...that is not good. Is there any way possible to limit her time in that domain. Or is it a place where you feel comfortable that she is old enough to police herself and get help if needed? If not, I would have to question the safety of keeping her in that situation.

I definitely feel that is not the norm and therefore, kids are still much better off learning to respect authority rather then not.

I do tell Emily that if an adult or authority figure tells her to do something that she is not comfortable with, she may advocate for herself, but she has to do it with respect and thoughtfulness.