In DD's case I think we may have been taking care of too many of these things for her and reminding her too much. We are working on transitioning to making her more independent. However, my husband and I both tend to be forgetful, something we cope with by using reminder systems such as calendars that beep at us and cell phone alarms. I am also trying to think of more supports of that nature for DD. Yesterday I wrote "get raincoat" on the back of her hand and she did get it back from the bus driver. wink