Do you feel positive? Negative? Neutral? Disillusioned?

When my first child started kindergarten I was excited, and assumed the schools would do what is right for kids. Now I feel very naive. I feel like I've had to fight for everything. Getting an IEP for my child in the first place, getting both of them differentiated work (which didn't/isn't happening in the classroom to the extent it should be addressed), identifying disorders in my child. Identifying giftedness. It has all been ME. If I had sat back and done nothing, my younger kid would not have an IEP, and my older kid would not have an ADHD diagnosis (despite it being obvious). No one would have suggested acceleration or differentiated work.

What I want to know, is it like this everywhere? Are there school districts/schools that are actually good and kids get their needs met? How do you feel?