Originally Posted by ellemenope
Yes, she is a beast that needs to be fed, so to speak. But, I also want to keep her hungry for more.

MegMeg,

I think this is the most succinct summary of my feelings. If you risk stifling her academic appetite through coercion, which I think could be the case with most strong-willed individuals, then it's better to take a quick hiatus from structure.

As a single parent, you're also in the tough position of always being the enforcer. Perhaps more than two-parent homes, I think you may have to choose your silver bullet issues carefully. Otherwise, you risk your disciplinarian role displacing your being a happy shelter for Hanni. (I don't mean this in binary terms, but as a shift on a continuum.)

What is to give light must endure burning.