Pemberley, are you going to record the meeting tomorrow? You can ask your advocate what your specific state law (possibly district policy?) is, and you may find out you need to ask permission first, but at this point, if you haven't already, I'd start recording the meetings.
I'd also be sure you have your advocate present tomorrow - if your advocate can't come, I'd postpone the meeting until a time you can all be present.
I also believe that it's time to bring up the points g2mom is making if the school sticks to their refusal to budge on the color chart - if they can't accommodate your dd at this school the district needs to see to it that she has her FAPE, and she can have FAPE at the private school with services and tuition provided by the district. They are, of course, not going to want to do that - but they need to know that's on your radar and you have the beginnings of a strong argument in favor of it.
Good luck tomorrow - let us know how the meeting goes!
polarbear
