I would call a parent advocate if you have a group in your state, and review the history of advocating you've been through so far. I'd also submit your written request for an IEP eligibility evaluation. They *can* turn your request down, but the school district should have some type of appeal process in place. Advice from a local advocate was beyond invaluable for us when we were advocating for an IEP. We found our group by looking through the yellowpages at wrightslaw.org
Best wishes,
polarbear
I have an advocate through local non-profit. I met with her today and then dragged her to the meeting (that wasn't scheduled). She is really helpful already and didn't even mind my epic scheduling fail. She said when you have a kid like hers (ha!), you learn to take a broader perspective on things like little schedule mess-ups.
I am still kind of in an OMG-did-I-really-do-that space. My brain isn't running on full throttle, evidently.
