Abby has ADHD". So if that parent doesn't know Abby and has a choice between inviting Abby and another child for a play date, who are they going to choose? The child that might be "difficult"? Are they going to encourage their child's friendship with a child that has a behavioral disorder? Probably not.
Absolutely. This is exactly what happens in my neighborhood/community. I was privy to these very incidents/conversations Friendships with "kids with 'isms'" (which are how the parents refer to these children) are discreetly and subtly but purposely discouraged. We do have a very very supportive small special needs community though...
