I just added a few little notes at the bottom of my previous post, in case you didn't see them since we were cross-posting
Re the team meeting, the school psych probably doesn't really run the meeting - most often the school psychs are just involved to determine eligibility and make initial recommendations (which you've seen). The actual IEP shouldn't be put together until the team meeting, and our school psych never even showed up for a team meeting after the eligibility meeting was past history. I also wasn't terribly fond of our school psych - in the eligibility meeting he kept saying things like "well it COULD be a learning disability or it COULD be ADHD or it COULD be he is from Mars... you get the picture. He even listed all of that in his eligibility report, even though he'd done no evaluation for any of it (ADHD, Mars etc). I think there's a good chance your team will agree to no behavior specialist if you just make your argument in a straightforward manner - any kind of specialist is going to cost $ and take teacher time. Remember that there will be quite a few people at the meeting other than the psych - your ds' teacher should be there, and a school district rep (or at least they come to our meetings), and you can take your dh with you so there are two parents there. Everyone has to agree for the IEP to take effect. If you get stuck on a point and can't agree, you can always say "We're not ready to sign today. We are going to take this draft home and think about it." That was our advocate's advice to us when we were headed into a sticky situation once. Fortunately we didn't get that far - I'll be honest, I had decided for our ds ahead of time there was a limit to how far we would go in disagreeing simply because I felt there was a point at which it became counterproductive and took up too much of my time and energy that was better spent helping ds
Good luck!
polarbear
