the heat of the moment takes over her brain, and we are back at square 1 or maybe 2 at this point and then she gets incredibly down on herself for letting it happen again.
Possibly this scientific explanation may help her: its from the book,
Make Your Worrier a Warrior, (2013, Great Potential Press) authored by Daniel Peters Ph.D. who lends expert insight to understanding what a child may be experiencing. For example, pages 44-45 suggest that parents may wish to think of acting out as
a variation of the "fight or flight" response... children couldn't articulate their fears... they were reacting behaviorally because their amygdala, or their emotional brain, was overriding their thinking brain... kids often do not have the emotional vocabulary and/or insight to tell you what is going on...
Armed with this knowledge, working on helping a child understand nuances of feelings and vocabulary to express their interpretation of what they are experiencing, may prove helpful.
They did what we suggested, which is to give her the space to come to a good decision on her own. In general, if she has 5 minutes to escape from the situation to think about it she will make good choices. She did not have an opportunity today to compose herself privately and this may have exacerbated the situation.
You are on top of this.
This camp and any others may need to know about the 5-minute technique, proactively. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Without an adult initiating an inquiry, your child may need to request to be excused for a moment, knowing that her request will be respected.
... I don't know what ASD is.
In this context, ASD refers to Autism Spectrum Disorder.
https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/autism/hcp-dsm.htmlHigh-functioning Autism used to be referred to as Asperger's.
This article may be of interest as it compares/contrasts several observable similarities and differences between gifted children on the Autism spectrum and gifted children not on the Autism spectrum.
http://www.grcne.com/giftedAsperger.html